Relationships are a recurring cycle, and many of them sadly end in a breakup because when it comes down to it you are either going to marry that person or breakup with them. That might make me sound unreasonable, but I would like to think of it as being realistic.

“I love you” is a common sentence used between two people in a relationship, but many people throw the word out there as if they mean it forever. The question is will you still exhibit the love you had for that person after you two breakup?

Tons of people will tell you that there are plenty of fish in the sea and that it should be easy for you to move on, but the fact is that breakups can be extremely difficult. When you put your time and energy into another person it is difficult to get over it with just a snap of your fingers, so here are a few tips to help cope with the loss of that person you once loved.

Cut Off Contact
Continuing to have contact with your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend makes it tempting to change your decision. You’re out of the relationship for a reason, so there is no need to continually talk to them. It honestly just makes it easier for you to remember what happened and get angry again. I don’t agree with people who say you can be friends with your ex because at one point you both loved each other as more than a friend, so that feeling could easily come back.

Exposing
When you get into a relationship there are many personal things that you share with that person, some things that should not be shared with anyone else. If you really loved that person, would you be willing to show and tell secrets if something bad were to happen? After a breakup you feel insecure and start looking for ways to make yourself feel better, and the first thing that pops into your head is hurting the other person in some way. It’s so easy to bash your ex after a breakup because you’re in pain, but if you loved a person you shouldn’t want to hurt them even if they hurt you. That person trusted you with the secrets that they told you and the things they showed you, so even though you aren’t together anymore that trust should be still there.

Keep To Yourself
After a breakup the first thing you’ll want to do is tell your friends and gossip about how that certain person did you wrong, but telling people leads to more drama. Breakups make teenagers become even more dramatic because everyone wants to know what happened. Then, there are the people who have been waiting for the breakup from the start. The best thing for you to do is just lay low for a little while.

These are only a few ways to help you with your breakup. The main thing to remember is that it happened for a reason, and you’re still an amazing person with or without that person.