Roses are red, violets are blue. I know this is cliché, but seriously teens this column is for you.

Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a day to scorn. If you are one of the people who plan on wearing black and staring daggers at happy couples, you are wasting your own energy by caring so much. If you happen to have a significant other great for you, though it doesn’t give you the right to purposely flaunt your love in other’s faces.

The point is when it comes to Valentine’s Day, to each their own. I for one couldn’t care less. I believe it can be a day where you express your love for others, not just the one you’re with. Elementary teachers had it right when all of us had to bring cute, little cards for every single child in our classroom. As we have matured, the holiday has a more personal meaning, selfish even.

Forever alone.

This phrase, if you haven’t heard it, is thrown around endlessly in light of the upcoming lover’s holiday. Usually, it crosses the average, single teenage girl’s lips as soon as the topic of romance is brought up. Speaking from this perspective, I for the most part, smile at cute couples and move on.

Of course, there is the wistfulness that comes with wishes of a relationship but I shake it off and refocus on my personal goals, my life. It’s unhealthy for young girls or guys to have an obsessive need to be in a relationship. If you can’t stay single for more than a couple months without going stir crazy, you need to examine yourself.

Most teens are in serious relationships claiming to have fallen in love, when they have yet learned how to love themselves. I am telling you, if you can’t stand to be alone that means you can’t stand yourself. Be free, have fun, make friends and become happy with your life while you are still the most important person in it.

Don’t let Valentine’s Day make or break the month of February for you. It is a day that highlights love, but that doesn’t mean it has to define your outlook on your love life. I wish you all an affectionate holiday with your loved ones, a day of satisfied contentment with whatever your status may be and most importantly, assurance in your love for yourself.